Family Future.

I hope that by Adam's parents moving here I can start a better relationship with them. We were the first to get married and they thought we were too young (we were 23 when we got married they were 19.) Every boy I ever dated parents loved me. Adam's parents kind of live in their own little world. They can even be cold to their own children so putting on my usual charm was extra challenging. We get along and I guess they like me at least Adam says they do. We were only dating for a 1.5 years when we got married. So I only saw them occasionally for the first year and a half and honestly was a little distant because I didn't feel comfortable around them. We moved away 3 days after our wedding so seeing them became more infrequent putting the relationship stage at a slow progress. Don't get me wrong we get along. In fact they try and be on their best behavior when I am around because they want to make a good impression on me as well. I just wish I could have the relationship with them that Adam has with my parents. I am going to put forth more effort and try to come up with activities where they see what a normal relationship is supposed to be like. I think the problem lies in their other kids. Their relationships are full of drama and they always need money from their parents. We don't need anything from them but love. Everything with Adam's brother and sisters is a big competition. We have this and this. Mom and Dad gave me this and this. It is sooo lame. First of all none of them can compete with us because I make more than any of their combined incomes and I am a teacher. Second of all his parents don't give us anything because they are stingy and we don't whine until we get something we can't afford to buy on our own. Whenever we go back to see them and we try and just hang out it becomes a pissing match with his siblings (they are always around) so we never get any real time with them. When they have visited here they never stay for more than a few days so we never get to get beyond the formalities. I am looking forward to getting some alone time with them so they can see us not only as our individual family but also that we can develop a normal relationship. Honestly it isn't Adam's mom that I think is cold . It is Adam's dad that needs to see relationships without drama and with the depth to which I believe a parent/adult children relationship can be. I am excited for what the future holds.